Tuesday, March 9, 2010

It was just meant to happen...

Tuesday, March 9, 2010

Last week, there was a lady that came in to buy a car. Before signing papers, she wanted to show her fiance. I tell her no problem...

Awhile later, her salesman comes to me and tells me that she just got back and was bawling. I, being the only woman, got the awkward job of having to go out and talk to her. She was devastated. Taking that vehicle to her fiance put a big wrench in her wedding plans.

She had walked in on her fiance and another woman. How uncomfortable? I'm feeling bad for her, but how do I try to comfort someone I don't even know. What am I supposed to say? She had even all ready bought her dress!

All I could tell her is that everything happens for a reason. She was meant to show up at her fiance's apartment at that exact time. Better things are in her future.

Think of how quick our lives can be changed. Whether in a good way or bad, all it takes is a split second to change our course. Being in the right place at the right time can make life terrific. You could land a great job, buy the right lottery ticket, bump into the love of your life. Being in the "wrong place at the wrong time" can be horrible. You could get hurt physically or you could have your heart broken.

What are your thoughts? Do you think there is such a thing as being in the "wrong place at the wrong time?" Have you ever had anything great happen to you by being somewhere at the perfect moment?


Sun Singer said...

I don't belief in the concepts of luck and fate, so even when it's painful--as in your example--I think people experience what they're meant to experience. At "another level of mind," your prospective customer probably knew what was happening and needed to find a way to expose it.


P. S. Tell Beth I tagged her in the like/dislike meme at: http://jockstewart.typepad.com/writers_notebook/2010/03/the-meme-in-which-i-state-what-i-do-and-dont-like-.html

Sun Singer said...

Hmm, should have proofread that. The word really ought to be "believe."

SIS BJ said...

Hi Brandy

How horrible for that lady. I believe in fate and feel that the lady you are talking about was meant to show up. Better to find out before the wedding and children.

I don't think I have ever had anything great happen by just being at the right place. But there you never know when it might happen.

Chris Behrens said...

Great topic, and I'm first!

I have definitely had both kinds of moments. For me personally it seems as though the 'wrong place, wrong time' aspect happens to me much more frequently but with much less overall impact. For example, it seems like whenever I'm in a hurry to get somewhere for a good reason, the timing of the traffic lights is off and I catch all the reds, or the traffic is particularly nasty right at that particular time when you know it's not normally that way. Or everyone seems to have decided to go to the same store you're going to and buy the same things you are there to buy. Those times make you feel like 5 or 10 minutes later or earlier would have made a big difference. I'm pretty sure it's just a perspective thing and luckily I cant recall any major negative incidents in my life from 'wrong place, wrong time'.

On the other side of the coin, I remember going out to Jack's Place on Clearwater Beach to see Sequel on a Friday night, which was unusual for me at the time. During a break between sets, I noticed a petite blond woman go out to the dance floor and start dancing. My jaw dropped when I realized who it was: Elizabeth Manley, who had won a silver medal at the Olympics in figure skating and who I was a big fan of at the time. She was in town for a skating show the next night that my family and I were going to.

When I told Dana, the drummer of Sequel at that time, about her he tried to get me to go say something to her, but I just couldn't. After she left the dance floor Dana went to the bar to get a drink and several minutes later came back with Liz Manley.

After I regained the ability to speak, her and I had a great conversation and she was kind enough to invite me backstage after the show the next night for pictures and autographs with all the other skaters in the show. At the time it was one of the best things that had happened to me (other than meeting Sequel, of course) and is something I will remember fondly the rest of my life.

I also know a story about a woman who 10 years ago happened to come across an internet chat room specifically set up for people with disabilities. Most everyone that she talked to the first time she was there told her about this person that she just had to talk to, because he had the same disability she did and in their minds he was 'all that and a bag of chips'. She talked to this person online and found out that they lived 20 minutes apart. They met in person shortly after that and Wendy and I have been together ever since.

I'm squarely on the fence as to whether things like this are coincidence or something more. I just don't know. My rational logical mind says one thing but my gut says another. I've had experiences that I'm completely comfortable with chalking up to coincidence but others aren't that simple.

Chris Behrens said...

Or I'm not first, darnit! Wrong place, wrong time?

Tori Lennox said...

How awful for that woman, but better to find out what a sleazebag her fiance was BEFORE the wedding!

Elle J Rossi said...

Shoot, Brandy. You should have sold that woman a much more expensive car just to make her feel better about herself!
Ha! I'm too funny.

Wrong place, wrong time? Absolutely!

SIS Barb aka Elle J Rossi

SIS Brandy said...

Yeah. She didn't end up buying a car. I found it a little hard to push on her too much. You know with all the crying going on.

I really believe that everything happens for a reason. Good and bad, it all makes us who we are.

Sisters-in-Sync said...

Holy cow. What a story.

I'm a grand believer in everything happens for a reason. That woman walking in on her fiancee at that moment HAPPENED because he wasn't the right man for her. Even though ugly and painful, it was, in the long run, a good thing. Not that she'd see that now. And not that I'd want to be in your shoes, Brandy. But I think you handled it as best you could.

As for being in the right place at the wrong/right time... I'll have to give that some thought.

For what it's worth, I don't think think things are pre-destined. I think we're offered choices and it goes from there.

*waving madly to Malcolm!*

SIS Beth

Sisters-in-Sync said...

Hi Brandy,

I really feel for that girl, but she's better off to have found out now what he is than to be married to him and then find out.

I believe the same as Beth. I believe that we are given choices and our life depends on what path we choose. For instance, that woman you spoke of has just been given a choice...try to work it out with her fiance and forgive him, or say "see ya later" and move on her with life and wait for a man who will have more respect for her.
Sorry you lost a sale, but I think you right not to push her and to try and console her as best you could.

SIS Bren

Alyson Reuben said...

Oh wow, how horrible for the poor darling! And what an awkward position it put you in, Brandy! But I'm sure your sympathetic support was exactly what she needed at the time. Sorry you lost a sale, though.

I have to agree with several of the others - she's much better off knowing what a conniving d*ck he is NOW than AFTER she married him.

Do I believe in being in the right/wrong place at the right/wrong time? Absolutely!

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