No matter how hard it is to tell the truth, in the end it would have saved you a lot of stress, angst and heartache.
But what if you tell a lie to try and spare someone’s feelings? Does that make it okay? Depends on who you talk to. But what if you told that person the truth and they were strong enough to learn something from it and become a better person, a stronger person? Wouldn’t that make honesty worth it? Their feelings were probably hurt, their ego maybe a little bruised, their heart a little broken, but in the end—hopefully—they understand that you only meant the best for them and in turn value your relationship even more.
There are those, mind you that will flip it and flip out. Those who can’t handle the truth—so to speak. Those that would rather blame the world than take ownership in their own. But those people still need and deserve to hear the truth, even if the relationship is damaged beyond repair.
But now I ask, can you be honest with yourself? This is sometimes the hardest thing to do. It’s hard to face the music. It’s hard to step up to the plate and not make excuses for why we can’t. Because we can. If we choose to. When we want to. When we have to.
When it comes to stepping up to the plate with my writing, sometimes I strike out and those are the times when the excuses (the lies) come easier to me. I have one bad session of writing, so the next day…The kids need me, the house needs cleaned, I need a mental break, I need to read a book for “research”, the list goes on and on. But the truth is, the whole truth…I’m scared. I’m scared that one bad session will turn into more and then I might fail. Forget the fact that I would definitely fail if I never wrote again.
So what do I do? I “buck up”, I get it together, I get back in the game! I chastise myself for all the excuses, the lies, and I get HONEST! So what if I had a bad writing day. At least I was writing. At least I learned something. At least I was doing something that means something to me. There are some that aren’t this “lucky”.
In case anyone is wondering, right now I am stepping up to the plate and I am completely in the game.
How about you? Do you make excuses or lie to yourself? Do you think you should always be honest with others? Please share.